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Use examples to explain and model each of these six strategies.
1. What Is The Consequence? What would be the consequence of an angry reaction? Responding in anger is never a good choice. It doesn't solve the problem. It creates more of the same-negative, angry words or actions.
2. Learn To Use Breathing. Breathing in itself is a body centering practice. Take three deep breaths and count to 10. This is a calming technique that gives more impulse control and time to react more appropriately.
3. Close Your Eyes. Think of a person, place, or thing that creates a peaceful, calm, or happy feeling inside. Perhaps a beautiful beach could be the place; the thing could be the baseball bat your grandfather gave you as a gift; the person could be someone close and loving.
4. Change The Attitude. Instead of showing anger, change the expression to a smile and make a joke about the situation. Humor can lighten a tense, stressful situation.
5. Play It Back. Play the situation again in your mind-like a rewind. It gives time to think about why you feel upset.
6. What Are The Feelings Inside? Learn to become aware of the physical reactions you feel in response to anger-dry mouth, clenched fists, butterflies in stomach, or red blotches creeping up the neck. They are the triggers. Learn to feel them coming.
What separates us from animals when faced with a fight or flight situation? We have the ability to control our words and actions. Animals rely on instinct to protect themselves in determining whether to attack or flee when violated. We have the same instinct but are able to protect and defend ourselves from harm with a higher level of sophistication and brain power. We become more positive parents when coaching our children in alternative ways to deal with anger.
1. What Is The Consequence? What would be the consequence of an angry reaction? Responding in anger is never a good choice. It doesn't solve the problem. It creates more of the same-negative, angry words or actions.
2. Learn To Use Breathing. Breathing in itself is a body centering practice. Take three deep breaths and count to 10. This is a calming technique that gives more impulse control and time to react more appropriately.
3. Close Your Eyes. Think of a person, place, or thing that creates a peaceful, calm, or happy feeling inside. Perhaps a beautiful beach could be the place; the thing could be the baseball bat your grandfather gave you as a gift; the person could be someone close and loving.
4. Change The Attitude. Instead of showing anger, change the expression to a smile and make a joke about the situation. Humor can lighten a tense, stressful situation.
5. Play It Back. Play the situation again in your mind-like a rewind. It gives time to think about why you feel upset.
6. What Are The Feelings Inside? Learn to become aware of the physical reactions you feel in response to anger-dry mouth, clenched fists, butterflies in stomach, or red blotches creeping up the neck. They are the triggers. Learn to feel them coming.
What separates us from animals when faced with a fight or flight situation? We have the ability to control our words and actions. Animals rely on instinct to protect themselves in determining whether to attack or flee when violated. We have the same instinct but are able to protect and defend ourselves from harm with a higher level of sophistication and brain power. We become more positive parents when coaching our children in alternative ways to deal with anger.
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